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Three Tips for the Perfect Bedtime Story

Telling bedtime stories freely and in your very own words is a great thing, children love it and they are allowed to join in and steer the story together with you.

Telling bedtime stories can also be a daunting task if you’re not used to invent and tell stories freely.

The good thing is, with a couple of little tips and some guidance, you can learn this skill and train to tell engaging stories. You’ve got the very best audience a storyteller can wish for: your own kids.

Today I’ll share three easy tips for the perfect bedtime story, so here we go.

Structure Your Story

Every story has a certain structure and follows specific rules to engage the audience, at the very core a simple story needs three storypoints: a beginning, a middle and an end.

Add one more storypoint in the middle, like a surprise twist, something dangerous that the characters have to overcome or a turn of events that changes the direction of the story — with these storypoints you’re ready and well equipped to build a great adventure.

  • Beginning (where do we start?)
  • Middle (what happens in the story?)
  • Turning Point (something unexpected happens / a problem occurs)
  • End (how does the story end?)

This is the part most people struggle with: how do I come up with a story? There are a couple of things you can do:

  • Think of a character. Any character. Preferably someone or something that your kids really enjoy — a knight, a pirate, a fairy or even take your own kid.
  • Think of a setting — where does this character live? In a castle, a boat, the woods or at home?
  • What problem occurs? A dragon besieges the castle, a treasure map in a bottle is discovered, the animals got sick or a huge cave troll appears in the garden and your kid decides to help him.
  • How can this problem be solved? The dragon was lonely and wanted to visit the people and not scare them, the treasure turns out to be a stranded person, the animals ate berries from a mysterious bush or your kid finds a new home for the cave troll.

These are just some really quick examples, but you get the idea. Frankly speaking: coming up with a story actually is the hardest part, but that’ also the part we’re going to help you out with!

Paint Pictures With Words

When you have the basic structure and the most important storypoints, it’s time to tell them in an engaging way that creates suspense and makes the children really care.

So it’s time to tell your kids what happens — but try to shake it up! Nothing just happens, it all has to be experienced.

When a character enters a building — what does it look like? Is it a big hall where you can barely see to the end or a tiny cave? Is it cold or warm, do you smell something? What can you hear? How does this character talk? Is he speaking very loud all the time or really quietly? Does he have an accent or mixes up some words?

Really focus on the details and let your kids join in — what do they hear? What do they see? What do they think happens next?

The great thing is that kids have crazy imagination skills and will be there to help you out, so explore the story together with them.

Have Fun

The most important part of bedtime stories is to have a great time with your kids. Remember how often you made a fool out of yourself and actually enjoyed it? Don’t hesitate to make mistakes, mix up some storypoints or forget what happens next — you’re not telling a story in a room full of people — these are your kids and they will help you out and share a laugh with you.

Be prepared to derail from the structure or a new character appears out of thin air because your children just thought of that — that’s the fun part of bedtime stories.

You’re not only watching or reading something together, you’re making it up along the way.

Enjoy your mistakes and embrace the unpredictability — you’ll never forget the great time you had together!

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A Child Bumps Her Head. What Happens Next Depends on Race?

When a child experiences a mild head injury and a parent seeks medical attention, what happens next in New York City seems to depend on the ZIP code and the color of the parent’s skin.

In April, the actress Jenny Mollen, wife of the actor Jason Biggs and resident of Manhattan’s affluent West Village, announced on social media that she had accidentally dropped her 5-year-old son, causing a skull fracture and requiring treatment in the intensive care unit of a private Manhattan hospital’s I.C.U.

Three months earlier and several miles north in the Bronx, my client, a Latina mom, was folding laundry in her apartment when she saw her 9-month-old daughter and 7-year-old son bump heads while playing on the bed. The following day she noticed that her daughter had a bump on her head. She took the baby to her pediatrician, and a follow-up at the hospital showed two minor skull fractures with a small underlying bleed.

This is where Ms. Mollen’s and my client’s stories diverge. According to Ms. Mollen’s social media account of the incident, she and Mr. Biggs were met with compassion and sympathy by the hospital. Ms. Mollen publicly thanked the staff, saying she was “forever grateful.”

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At the Bronx hospital, though, my client was met with suspicion, interrogation and accusations of child abuse, even after explaining her daughter’s accidental head bump with her brother to the hospital staff. Emergency room staff members called the New York City Administration for Children’s Services to report possible child abuse. A.C.S. workers and the New York City police interrogated her, as well as her husband and their 14-year-old daughter. At no time was this distraught mother told she could or should contact a lawyer. Nonetheless, when the baby was ready for discharge without requiring any medical treatment, A.C.S. told her parents that they could not take her home and that they must identify family members to care for her and her siblings. Otherwise, the children would be placed in the foster system with strangers. Though she was still regularly nursing the baby and no judge had reviewed this decision, my client had no choice but to comply. She left the hospital without her daughter.

Two days later, as a family defense lawyer who represents parents against abuse charges in family court, I met her. She was terrified and shaking during our first conversation, and told me she had not seen her children in two days. The first thing she wanted to know was when they could come home. That day, without any evidence of wrongdoing, A.C.S. filed a petition in Bronx Family Court accusing her and her husband of child abuse by intentionally causing their daughter’s skull fractures. A.C.S. asked the judge to issue an order to keep the children out of their parents’ home and asked that they remain with a relative.

To be clear, there’s nothing to suggest that Ms. Mollen and Mr. Biggs abused their child or that they should have been investigated or charged with abuse. The outrage is not that they were treated with compassion and understanding — it’s that low-income black and Latino parents in the Bronx are not.

Though the words “skull fracture” are enough to bring chills to any parent of a young child, in reality mild skull fractures in young, mobile children commonly result from accidents and generally do not require treatment other than observation. And though parents can usually describe the event or provide information about how they believe a skull fracture was caused, it is not uncommon for a parent to notice increasing head swelling or a bump hours or days after something happened, when the child’s activities and movements are long forgotten.

In my experience representing parents against abuse charges in the Bronx, I have repeatedly seen the mere existence of a skull fracture in a young black or Latino child brought to the hospital trigger a call to a state child abuse hotline, an investigation, a child abuse accusation in family court and the removal of children from parents. This is especially the case when a parent cannot tell the hospital exactly how the injury was caused because it may have occurred days before the symptoms arose or were noticed.

In the past 18 months alone, we at Bronx Defenders have represented at least six parents charged with abuse based on a child’s minor head injury.

Research shows that black and Hispanic pediatric emergency room patients with minor head trauma are two to four times more likely to be evaluated and then reported (as suspected abusive head trauma) when compared with white, non-Hispanic patients. Once there are suspicions of abuse, black children are more likely to receive invasive testing like full body X-rays.

We have challenged child abuse allegations in the courtroom on several occasions, and it almost always turned out that A.C.S. had little medical evidence to support its contention that an isolated and mild skull fracture was from abuse rather than an unfortunate accident — even when the parent could not say how the fracture occurred. For family defense attorneys, the process of litigating hearings to exculpate parents and reunite families can last weeks or months, during which time the family is traumatically separated. Even short stays in foster care have proven harmful to children, who can be placed with strangers and separated from siblings, family and other support systems. To address this harm, which is experienced disparately by low-income parents of color, A.C.S. needs to change its practice of presumptively separating children from their parents without adequate evidence that the child was harmed by a parent.

In the case of my client, for example, I immediately consulted a New York City-based pediatric neurosurgeon to confirm that the baby’s skull fracture was minor, plausibly accidental, and that her mom’s story was consistent with the injury. It was then quickly exposed during my client’s arraignment that A.C.S. had no firm medical evidence to support its charge of child abuse. In fact, A.C.S. admitted that though it had separated her from her children and filed abuse charges, it had not spoken to a neurologist, neurosurgeon or child abuse specialist, nor had it spoken to any doctor who provided conclusive evidence that the baby’s skull fracture was anything other than an unfortunate accident. That day, over A.C.S.’s objections, the judge ordered that the children be returned home, and three months later, A.C.S. withdrew its charges and the case was dismissed.

But none of this should have happened. All families deserve the sort of support and compassion that the Biggs/Mollen family received in a time of need.

While a better-safe-than-sorry approach that accelerates child removals may sound like a responsible way to protect children, it ignores the harm and trauma children can experience when they are separated from their families and placed into foster care.

New York City must grapple with how and why it has permitted a system to hurt children by believing some parents but not others.

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Urban-Farming Camps Have Kids Asking, Where’s the Healthy Food?

At summer programs in Harlem and the Bronx, children grow crops and talk about the limited sources of good nutrition in their neighborhoods.

Standing between two buildings on 127th Street, a group of campers on the cusp of adolescence mulled over a change in schedule. Normally, they would spend the morning planting and gardening as part of Harlem Grown, a youth development nonprofit that uses gardening and cooking to teach and empower children in Harlem.

But on this Friday, they would become amateur cartographers, mapping their local food landscape.

The 15 campers walked through their neighborhood, paper and pencils in hand. How many delis? (By some counts, 17, by others, 14.) Supermarkets? (Three.) Fast-food restaurants? (Twenty-two, they estimated, but lost count.)

As he looked for places offering affordable vegetables, Myles Bradumn, a 13-year-old camper, grew frustrated. “What about the delis?” he asked.

“Can you get vegetables at the deli?” said his counselor, Jarielle Isaac, 22.

“Sort of,” Myles replied.

“Can you get a lot of produce at the deli? Is there fresh food there?” she asked, pressing him.

“No,” Myles snapped. “But where are we supposed to get our food from, then?”

For years, summer programs like the Fresh Air Fund have transported low-income New York City children into the suburbs and countryside for outdoor activities. More recently, urban-farming initiatives have offered similar experiences within city limits.

But programs like Harlem Grown and Culinary Arts and Agriculture Training, which began in July at four New York City Housing Authority buildings around the city, are taking the local experience one step further, helping children explore bigger questions in their neighborhoods: what the food choices are, and why healthy options are often hard to find or afford.

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5 Toys and Games to Pack for the Trip for the kids

These are the toys and games that Wirecutter parents pack to keep their children entertained while traveling.

Next time you fly — or take a long road or train trip — with your children, consider stocking your carry-on with toys and games that will not only entertain them but maybe even teach them a little something. Here are a few suggestions, aimed mostly at younger children, but often fun for older ones and adults, too.

Pro tip: Whatever your go-to travel toys end up being, reserve them for trips so that they retain their special-occasion allure.

These coloring pads’ water-filled pens and reusable pages — they turn bright hues when wet — let preschoolers “paint” without mess on the plane or in the car.

In this learning app, children explore and shape an imaginary land, watching the flora and fauna change — which helps them become more observant travelers, too.

This analog game offers delightfully tough logic puzzles. Translation: It’ll help keep your grade-schooler occupied through the inevitable real-life traffic jams and travel delays.

An upgrade from the old Magna Doodle, this LCD drawing board is more colorful, more accurate, and easier to erase — and just as self-contained and mess-free.

This quick-paced “pick and pass” card game is simple enough for children as young as 5 to master, but tricky enough for older players to enjoy.

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Parenting Is Bad for Your Face

Acne and other skin conditions can flare up during pregnancy and postpartum. Here’s what you can do about them.

“You either have the best skin of your life during pregnancy, or the worst.” That’s something my dermatologist told me when I came to him with what I thought was a rash but turned out to be a face full of acne. I was about five months pregnant with my first kid, and in shock. I never had acne as a teenager — a pimple was a once-a-year occurrence. I thought when you were pregnant you were supposed to glow, not have your face burst into flames.

Turns out that for a good portion of the pregnant population, glowing is a lie! While the research on this isn’t great, studies show that about 40 percent of pregnant women have acne, and while the majority of those women had acne before pregnancy, more than 13 percent of them didn’t. The folks with no history of acne who flare up as adults are the “most angry patients of the day,” said Dr. Jenny Murase, M.D., an associate clinical professor of dermatology at U.C.S.F. Medical Center.

To add insult to injury for all of us with our first acne during pregnancy — it may be because we’re getting older, not just because we’re pregnant. Dr. Murase said an onset of acne in your early 30s is very well-described in the medical literature. Because I had my first child at 30, “With the timing, it was your age and you were coincidentally pregnant,” she said.

But that’s not the only skin condition that may crop up during pregnancy, postpartum and beyond — in fact, there are so many things that might happen to your skin and hair (skin tags! hair loss!), but I’m focusing just on a few major areas in this newsletter. I talked to three dermatologists about some skin conditions to look out for, and how to deal with them.

Acne: The bad news first. “There are very few ways to treat acne during pregnancy,” said Dr. Hilary Baldwin, M.D., medical director of the Acne Treatment and Research Center in New Jersey and New York. There aren’t good studies about the use of acne medication on pregnant women. (This is an issue that crops up with all medications during pregnancy: Most studies on pregnant women and medication are observational, which are not the highest quality studies.)

But there are a few medications that have no data indicating adverse effects, Dr. Baldwin said, including metronidazole, clindamycin and azelaic acid. All three come in topical form, and metronidazole and clindamycin, which are antibiotics, are also available as oral medications (though the oral forms of these medications are not recommended during pregnancy). Over-the-counter treatments that work and are appropriate for use in pregnant women are limited.

Pretty much all topical treatments are safe to use while you’re nursing, Dr. Baldwin said. “The absorption is extremely low,” so the chances of anything ending up in your breast milk are tiny. Any oral medication that’s safe for a baby to take is safe for a nursing parent to take, Dr. Baldwin said. If you have an acne flare up during pregnancy or postpartum, it might not resolve immediately, she added. You may need ongoing treatment even after you stop nursing, but at that point you will have more options for medication.

Pigmentation problems: During pregnancy, your nipples may get darker; you may develop a line down the middle of your belly called the linea nigra, which can take many months after your baby’s birth to go away; and you may also get melasma, otherwise known as the mask of pregnancy. Melasma is “characterized by tan or brown patches on the cheek, the forehead, the upper lip and portions of the face,” said Dr. Andrew Alexis, M.D., chairman of the department of dermatology at Mount Sinai St. Luke’s and Mount Sinai West.

Melasma can happen in anyone but is more prevalent among women of color, said Dr. Alexis, who is also the director of the Skin of Color Center at Mount Sinai. During pregnancy, Dr. Alexis recommends preventative measures, like staying out of the sun, to avoid melasma. Once the mask of pregnancy appears, azelaic acid can be used to treat the condition in pregnant and nursing women, and it can be used later on. If you’re not nursing, you can also use creams containing hydroquinone, or topical retinoids like Retin-A, to treat melasma after you give birth, Dr. Alexis said.

Stretch marks: “There’s very little evidence of any therapy that can prevent them,” Dr. Alexis said. Extremely moisturizing lotions like shea butter might help reduce stretch marks, Dr. Alexis has found anecdotally, though there’s no evidence to support it. There’s not much to be done treatment-wise during pregnancy and lactation for stretch marks, he said. But when you’re no longer nursing, you can try retinoids to reduce their appearance. You can also try laser resurfacing, “but it requires multiple sessions to get the results, and there are some nuances to treating women of color,” because with darker skin there’s a higher risk of skin-color changes, Dr. Alexis said. So if you are a woman of color, it’s paramount to find a provider who has expertise in doing laser treatments on women with darker skin.

One last thing: You may think that being concerned with skin changes during your child-rearing years is mere vanity, but there are real psychological consequences to untreated severe conditions, Dr. Baldwin said. Studies have shown that acne can lead to negative body image, lower self-esteem, depression and even workplace discrimination. Which is all to say: It’s not frivolous or shallow to care about the way you look when you’re also caring for a baby.

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What Am I Doing to My Kid When I Yell?

Short answer: You’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of shouting matches.

Yelling at kids is incredibly easy to do, and many parents find themselves yelling on autopilot when behavior gets dicey. But yelling at kids isn’t effective. Still, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t feel effective. After all, yelling often feels like the best technique for getting a kid’s attention, punishing them, or simply expressing big parental feelings of anger. But all of the shouting, screaming, and yelling at kids is deeply unhelpful.

According to Dr. Laura Markham, yelling is clearly a parenting “technique” we can do without. The good news is that the psychological and emotional damage to a kid is minimal when parents yell (assuming it’s not true verbal abuse). The bad news is that those who are doing it constantly are setting up more shouting matches later in life.

Yelling at Kids Is Never Communicating

Nobody (except for a small percentage of sadists) enjoys being yelled at. So, why would kids? “When parents yell, kids acquiesce on the outside, but the child isn’t more open to your influence, they’re less so,” says Dr. Markham. Younger kids may bawl; older kids will get a glazed-over look — but both are shutting down instead of listening. That’s not communication.

Grown-Ups Are Scary When They Yell

The power parents hold over young kids is absolute. To them, their folks are humans twice their size who provide things they need to live: Food, shelter, love — Nick Jr. When the person they trust most frightens them, it rocks their sense of security. And yes, it’s truly frightening for a child. “They’ve done studies where people were filmed yelling. When it was played back to the subjects, they couldn’t believe how twisted their faces got,” says Dr. Markham. A 3-year-old may appear to push buttons and give off an attitude like an adult, but they still don’t have the emotional maturity to be treated like one.

Yelling Makes Kids Fight, Flight, or Freeze

Dr. Markham says that while parents who shout aren’t ruining their kids’ brains, per se, they are changing them. “Let’s say during a soothing experience [the brain’s] neurotransmitters respond by sending out soothing biochemicals that we’re safe. That’s when a child is building neural pathways to calm down.”

When a toddler with underdeveloped prefrontal cortex and not much in the way of the executive function gets screamed at, the opposite happens. “The kid releases biochemicals that say fight, flight, or freeze. They may hit you. They may run away. Or they freeze and look like a deer in headlights. None of those are good for brain formation,” she says. If that action happens repeatedly, the behavior becomes ingrained.

Yelling Makes Kids Fight, Flight, or Freeze

Dr. Markham says that while parents who shout aren’t ruining their kids’ brains, per se, they are changing them. “Let’s say during a soothing experience [the brain’s] neurotransmitters respond by sending out soothing biochemicals that we’re safe. That’s when a child is building neural pathways to calm down.”

When a toddler with an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex and not much in the way of the executive function gets screamed at, the opposite happens. “The kid releases biochemicals that say fight, flight, or freeze. They may hit you. They may run away. Or they freeze and look like a deer in headlights. None of those are good for brain formation,” she says. If that action happens repeatedly, the behavior becomes ingrained.

Parents Who Yell Train Kids to Yell

“Normalize” is a word that gets thrown about a lot these days in politics, but it’s also applicable to a child’s environment. Parents who constantly yell in the house make that behavior normal for a kid, and they’ll adapt to it. Dr. Markham notes that if a child doesn’t bat an eye when they’re being scolded, there’s too much scolding going on. Instead, parents need to first and foremost be models of self-regulation. In essence, to really get a kid to behave, grown-ups have to first.

It’s Not About “Letting Them Off Easy”

A parent may feel like they’re putting their foot down and establishing some discipline when they yell. What they’re really doing is exacerbating the problem. Scaring a kid at the moment may get them to knock off what they’re doing, but it’s also eroding trust in the relationship.

There is an alternative method that’s more effective and not as hard-line: humor. “If the parent responds with a sense of humor, you still maintain your authority and keep them connected to you,” says Dr. Markham. Laughter seems like a more welcomed outcome than cowering.

When It’s Okay to Yell

While the majority of the time yelling isn’t prescriptive, “there are times it’s great to raise your voice,” says Dr. Markham. “When you have kids hitting each other, like siblings, or there’s real danger.” These are instances when shocking them works, but she points out that once you get a kid’s attention, modulate your voice. Basically, yell to warn, but speak to explain.

Nobody is going to stifle themselves around their kids all the time, and nor should they. That’s not what it’s like to be a person. But it’s a harmful long-term parenting strategy. Rain or shine, there are plenty of outdoor learning opportunities for your children- both in childcare and at home. So go outside, get dirty, and have fun! and learn new things at Dad blogs about parenting and kids.

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The importance of healthy habits and exercise for children

Most people feel better when they get regular exercise. A sedentary lifestyle is not only unhealthy, but it can make us feel sluggish and more fatigued in the short term with even worse long-term implications. Kids need exercise too in order to grow and develop to their highest potential.

Healthy habits established in childhood will more often stay with us throughout our lives. Parents and schools need to help children develop healthy habits and active lifestyles. Studies show that overweight, inactive kids are likely to remain overweight as adults, with the weight problem often worsening as they grow older.

Carrying extra weight puts kids at risk for a number of health problems, including high blood pressure, heart disease, diabetes, and even some types of cancer. Parents offer their children a big health advantage when they teach them to love exercise, sports and other physical activities, propelling them to healthier lives.

Regular exercise builds strength, enhances coordination and improves overall health. Most people are aware of the physical benefits of activity, but the pay-off doesn’t end there. Physical activity helps to relieve stress, reduces anxiety, and helps stave off depression.

Children who are allowed outlets for their natural energies are more capable of controlling their behavior in school and often excel academically when compared to their less active peers. Even young children show better self-control when they are given opportunities for active play, and this connection between activity and emotional well-being remains all throughout their lives. While a limited amount of time spent watching television or playing video games isn’t necessarily harmful for children, the majority of their pastimes should be play-based including physical activity.

In addition to benefiting their physical and emotional well-being, participation in sports and other active play-based endeavors allows kids healthy social interactions which helps them develop friendships with their peers.

Lots of learning occurs during childhood, including important lessons on how to interact with others in positive ways. Kids who are secluded in their homes watching videos or playing computer games miss many opportunities to fine tune their social skills, putting them at a disadvantage when compared to children who participate in team activities.

Childhood obesity rates are the highest in history and constitute a major threat to the health and well-being of an entire generation of children. In fact, pediatricians are reporting more diabetes and heart disease in children than ever before. This trend in children’s health is frightening, but can be turned around.

Parents have a responsibility to ensure that their children eat healthy diets and get sufficient exercise. Scheduling active family outings, playing together and modeling a healthy lifestyle are all decisions that can help kids to get healthy and stay healthy throughout their entire lives.

Simpson County Schools is committed to developing the whole child. We offer many opportunities for students to be active and engage in healthy activities during and after school. In addition, our school lunch program offers a nutritious and healthy breakfast and lunch daily.

In fact, all students are eligible for free breakfast! Our students being healthy and active are beneficial to our life readiness vision so that each may graduate prepared for a successful life, post-secondary training and careers.

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How can I tell if my child is overweight?

Being able to tell whether a child is overweight is not always easy. Children grow at different rates and at different times. Also, the amount of a child’s body fat changes with age and differs between girls and boys.

One way to tell if your child is overweight is to calculate his or her body mass index  (BMI). BMI is a measure of body weight relative to height. The BMI calculator uses a formula that produces a score often used to tell whether a person is underweight, a normal weight, overweight, or obese. The BMI of children is age- and sex-specific and known as the “BMI-for-age.”

BMI-for-age uses growth charts created by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Doctors use these charts to track a child’s growth. The charts use a number called a percentile to show how your child’s BMI compares with the BMI of other children. The main BMI categories for children and teens are

  • healthy weight: 5th to 84th percentile
  • overweight: 85th to 94th percentile
  • obese: 95th percentile or higher

Why should I be concerned?

You should be concerned if your child has extra weight because weighing too much may increase the chances that your child will develop health problems now or later in life.

In the short run, for example, he or she may have breathing problems or joint pain, making it hard to keep up with friends. Some children may develop health problems, such as type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, and high cholesterol. Some children also may experience teasing, bullying, depression , or low self-esteem.

Children who are overweight are at higher risk of entering adulthood with too much weight. The chances of developing health problems such as heart disease  and certain types of cancer  are higher among adults with too much weight.

BMI is a screening tool and does not directly measure body fat or an individual child’s risk of health problems. If you are concerned about your child’s weight, talk with your child’s doctor or other health care professional. He or she can check your child’s overall health and growth over time and tell you if weight management may be helpful. Many children who are still growing in length don’t need to lose weight; they may need to decrease the amount of weight they gain while they grow taller. Don’t put your child on a weight-loss diet unless your child’s doctor tells you to.

How can I help my child develop healthy habits?

You can play an important role in helping your child build healthy eating, drinking, physical activity, and sleep habits. For instance, teach your child about balancing the amount of food and beverages he or she eats and drinks with his or her amount of daily physical activity. Take your child grocery shopping and let him or her choose healthy foods and drinks, and help plan and prepare healthy meals and snacks. The 2015 U.S. Dietary Guidelines  explain the types of foods and beverages to include in a healthy eating plan.

Here are some other ways to help your child develop healthy habits:

  • Be a good role model. Consume healthy foods and drinks, and choose active pastimes. Children are good learners, and they often copy what they see.
  • Talk with your child about what it means to be healthy and how to make healthy decisions.
  • Discuss how physical activities and certain foods and drinks may help their bodies get strong and stay healthy.
  • Children should get at least an hour of physical activity  (PDF, 14.2 MB) daily and should limit their screen time  (computers, television, and mobile devices) outside of school work to no more than 2 hours each day.
  • Chat about how to make healthy choices about food, drinks, and activities at school, at friends’ houses, and at other places outside your home.
  • Involve the whole family in building healthy eating, drinking, and physical activity habits. Everyone benefits, and your child who is overweight won’t feel singled out.
  • Make sure you child gets enough sleep. While research about the relationship between sleep and weight is ongoing, some studies link excess weight to not enough sleep in children and adults.

What can I do to improve my child’s eating habits?

Besides consuming fewer foods, drinks, and snacks that are high in calories, fat, sugar, and salt, you may get your child to eat healthier by offering these options more often:

  • fruits, vegetables, and whole grains such as brown rice
  • lean meats, poultry, seafood, beans and peas, soy products, and eggs, instead of meat high in fat
  • fat-free or low-fat milk and milk products or milk substitutes, such as soy beverages with added calcium and vitamin D, instead of whole milk or cream
  • fruit and vegetable smoothies made with fat-free or low-fat yogurt, instead of milk shakes or ice cream
  • water, fat-free, or low-fat milk, instead of soda and other drinks with added sugars

You also may help your child eat better by trying to

  • Avoid serving large portions , or the amount of food or drinks your child chooses for a meal or snack. Start with smaller amounts of food and let your child ask for more if he or she is still hungry. If your child chooses food or drinks from a package, container, or can, read the Nutrition Facts Label  (PDF, 753 KB)  to see what amount is equal to one serving. Match your child’s portion to the serving size listed on the label to avoid extra calories, fat, and sugar.
  • Put healthy foods and drinks where they are easy to see and keep high-calorie foods and drinks out of sight—or don’t buy them at all.
  • Eat fast food less often. If you do visit a fast-food restaurant, encourage your child to choose healthier options, such as sliced fruit instead of fries. Also, introduce your child to different foods, such as hummus with veggies.
  • Try to sit down to family meals as often as possible, and have fewer meals “on the run.”
  • Discourage eating in front of the television, computer, or other electronic device.

To help your child develop a healthy attitude toward food and eating:

  • Don’t make your child clean his or her plate.
  • Offer rewards other than food or drinks when encouraging your child to practice healthy habits. Promising dessert for eating vegetables sends a message that vegetables are less valuable than dessert.

Healthy snack ideas

To help your child eat less candy, cookies, and other unhealthy snacks, try these healthier snack options instead:

  • air-popped popcorn without butter
  • fresh, frozen, or fruit canned in natural juices, plain or with fat-free or low-fat yogurt
  • fresh vegetables, such as baby carrots, cucumbers, zucchini, or cherry tomatoes
  • low-sugar, whole-grain cereal with fat-free or low-fat milk, or a milk substitute with added calcium and vitamin D

How can I help my child be more active?

Try to make physical activity fun for your child. Children need about 60 minutes of physical activity a day, although the activity doesn’t have to be all at once. Several short 10- or even 5-minute spurts of activity throughout the day are just as good. If your child is not used to being active, encourage him or her to start out slowly and build up to 60 minutes a day.

To encourage daily physical activity:

  • Let your child choose a favorite activity to do regularly, such as climbing a jungle gym at the playground or joining a sports team or dance class.
  • Help your child find simple, fun activities to do at home or on his or her own, such as playing tag, jumping rope, playing catch, shooting baskets, or riding a bike (wear a helmet).
  • Limit time with the computer, television, cell phone, and other devices to 2 hours a day.
  • Let your child and other family members plan active outings, such as a walk or hike to a favorite spot.

Where can I go for help?

If you have tried to change your family’s eating, drinking, physical activity, and sleep habits and your child has not reached a healthy weight, ask your child’s health care professional about other options. He or she may be able to recommend a plan for healthy eating and physical activity, or refer you to a weight-management specialist, registered dietitian, or program. Your local hospital, a community health clinic, or health department also may offer weight-management programs for children and teens or information about where you can enroll in one.

What should I look for in a weight-management program?

When choosing a weight-management program for your child, look for a program that

  • includes a variety of health care providers on staff, such as doctors, psychologists  and registered dietitians.
  • evaluates your child’s weight, growth, and health before enrollment and throughout the program.
  • adapts to your child’s specific age and abilities. Programs for elementary school-aged children should be different from those for teens.
  • helps your family keep healthy eating, drinking, and physical activity habits after the program ends.

How else can I help my child?

You can help your child by being positive and supportive throughout any process or program you choose to help him or her achieve a healthy weight. Help your child set specific goals and track progress. Reward successes with praise and hugs.

Tell your child that he or she is loved, special, and important. Children’s feelings about themselves are often based on how they think their parents and other caregivers feel about them.

Listen to your child’s concerns about his or her weight. He or she needs support, understanding, and encouragement from caring adults.

What are clinical trials and what role do children play in research?

Clinical trials are research studies involving people of all ages. Clinical trials look at safe and effective new ways to prevent, detect, or treat disease. Researchers also use clinical trials to look at other aspects of care, such as improving quality of life. Research involving children helps scientists.

There are variety of popular children book series available and with the help of those books you can teach your kids about economics, money management, life skills and life lessons.

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The Benefits of Positive Parenting & How to Cultivate It in Your Family

Many of our articles touch on the benefits of positive parenting, but today we’re looking at some of the science and research that backs up what many parents have found to be a tremendously rewarding approach to raising children.

Have you ever met a parent who exudes positivity with their words and actions?

Do you feel “lifted up” and more positive after your exchange with this person?

Positivity is a state of mind. It is being mindful of the importance of having a positive attitude about life, despite challenges that come our way. Reflecting on what is good in our lives assists us in maintaining a positive attitude.

The day to day responsibilities of being a parent can put us in a “doing” mode rather than a “being” mode. As a result, it can be challenging for parents to maintain a positive mindset. However, it’s extremely valuable for parents to take active steps to cultivate positivity for themselves and their families.

THE MANY BENEFITS OF POSITIVE PARENTING

Having a positive outlook doesn’t mean you never feel negative emotions, such as sadness or anger, says Dr. Barbara L. Fredrickson, a psychologist and expert on emotional wellness at the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill.

“All emotions—whether positive or negative—are adaptive in the right circumstances. The key seems to be finding a balance between the two,” she says.

“Positive emotions expand our awareness and open us up to new ideas, so we can grow and add to our toolkit for survival,” Fredrickson explains. “But people need negative emotions to move through difficult situations and respond to them appropriately in the short term. Negative emotions can get us into trouble, though, if they’re based on too much rumination about the past or excessive worry about the future, and they’re not really related to what’s happening in the here and now.”

People who are emotionally well, experts say, have fewer negative emotions and are able to bounce back from difficulties faster.

This quality is called resilience. Another sign of emotional wellness is being able to hold onto positive emotions longer and appreciate the good times. Developing a sense of meaning and purpose in life – and focusing on what’s important to you – also contributes to emotional wellness.

The Benefits of Positive Parenting & How to Cultivate It in Your Family

Many of our articles touch on the benefits of positive parenting, but today we’re looking at some of the science and research that backs up what many parents have found to be a tremendously rewarding approach to raising children.

The Benefits of Positive Parenting

Have you ever met a parent who exudes positivity with their words and actions?

Do you feel “lifted up” and more positive after your exchange with this person?

Positivity is a state of mind. It is being mindful of the importance of having a positive attitude about life, despite challenges that come our way. Reflecting on what is good in our lives assists us in maintaining a positive attitude.

The day to day responsibilities of being a parent can put us in a “doing” mode rather than a “being” mode. As a result, it can be challenging for parents to maintain a positive mindset. However, it’s extremely valuable for parents to take active steps to cultivate positivity for themselves and their families.

THE MANY BENEFITS OF POSITIVE PARENTING

Having a positive outlook doesn’t mean you never feel negative emotions, such as sadness or anger, says Dr. Barbara L. Fredrickson, a psychologist and expert on emotional wellness at the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill.

“All emotions—whether positive or negative—are adaptive in the right circumstances. The key seems to be finding a balance between the two,” she says.

“Positive emotions expand our awareness and open us up to new ideas, so we can grow and add to our toolkit for survival,” Fredrickson explains. “But people need negative emotions to move through difficult situations and respond to them appropriately in the short term. Negative emotions can get us into trouble, though, if they’re based on too much rumination about the past or excessive worry about the future, and they’re not really related to what’s happening in the here and now.”

People who are emotionally well, experts say, have fewer negative emotions and are able to bounce back from difficulties faster.

This quality is called resilience. Another sign of emotional wellness is being able to hold onto positive emotions longer and appreciate the good times. Developing a sense of meaning and purpose in life – and focusing on what’s important to you – also contributes to emotional wellness.

It is important for parents to be mindful of striking a balance between positive emotions and negative emotions. These are some of the building blocks to the benefits of positive parenting.

This can also help parents practice not getting stuck in negative emotions. They will be able to cultivate positivity for themselves, and model it for their children.

How you can cultivate positivity in your family?

Communication and building meaningful relationships with your family are valuable first steps to creating positivity in your life. It is important to be aware of your tone of voice, body language, and attitude when you are speaking with them. Simply be present and listen.

Focus on the interaction in the moment instead of being preoccupied with responsibilities on the to-do list or the comment you want to make. By staying present with your family, you are not only creating more positivity, but you are building a deeper connection with them. This in turn will model meaningful communication and connections for your children.

It is important that parents nurture themselves. It is essential for parents to nurture their mind and body on a daily basis as it will cultivate positivity in their lives. Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Think about a concern or situation with a new perspective, take time to eat well, exercise, practice meditation and yoga, connect with others, and engage in activities that bring you joy.

Take time out of your schedule on a regular basis to go on a family walk. Spending time together to explore nature or a new place is a wonderful way to deepen relationships and cultivate a positive lifestyle for your family.

Engage in community causes and volunteer for organizations that are meaningful to you. Encourage your family to get involved, too!

Another way parents can create more positivity in their lives is to monitor their self talk. It is helpful for parents to ask themselves these questions: Are my self-statements promoting positivity in my life or inhibiting it in some way? How does it impact my relationships?

Practice replacing negative self talk with positive self statements and gratitude for the good in your life are essential. When parents are mindful of a positive attitude it becomes infectious at home. This is a great teachable moment for your child and you are creating a positive home environment.

Evaluate your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors on a regular basis. Identify situations where you find yourself “slipping” into a negative mind set or engaging in behaviors that are counterproductive. Once you identify these situations, it provides a great opportunity to reflect on how adjusting your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors can bring forth more positivity in your life and for your family.

Take time to reflect on the people in your life. Are you surrounding yourself with people who exude positivity? Do their words and actions inspire you or deflate you?

It is valuable to set boundaries with people in your life who maintain a negative mind set. Their personal issues are not your issues. You have control over how you want to respond to their negativity.

Establish positive support systems in your life. Surround yourself with family members and friends who are positive and supportive with their words and actions. Their encouragement will help you on your path to maintaining the positivity you desire for yourself and your family.

How to help your child create positivity?

Assist your child in finding their joy and passions in life. This will help your child to develop a positive sense of self and good coping skills.

Facilitate opportunities for your child to engage in creative expression. It will assist your child in recognizing their talents, inner strengths, and outer strengths.

Encourage your child to practice yoga, deep breathing, and meditation. Through these practices, your child will learn to calm their mind, strengthen their body, and positive ways to cope with life stressors.

Help your child express their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. By helping your child to get in touch with their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, they will learn to not become “stuck”, and express themselves in a healthy way.

Foster community involvement and volunteering opportunities for your child. It is an excellent way to help your child understand the importance of helping others, gratitude, and being a part of a community.

Create opportunities for your child to make decisions and learn accountability. This will foster positivity as your child will identify pros and cons of a decision, possible outcomes, and develop resiliency from their experiences. As a result, your child will build character, strength, and a positive sense of self.

It is evident creating a positive lifestyle for you and your family is a process. The experts point out the importance of striking a balance between positive emotions and negative emotions. It is also important parents are clear about their individual goals and family goals as it will help to create a positive lifestyle.

Taking small steps each day will empower you and your family to cultivate the positivity you envision. Community involvement and surrounding yourself with individuals who support your goals for a positive lifestyle are paramount.

Parents being mindful of the suggestions above are taking active steps each day to create positivity for themselves and their family. Through these active steps to enjoy the benefits of positive parenting, you will cultivate intention, gratitude, and meaningful relationships in your life.

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7 Science-Based Health Benefits of Drinking Enough Water For Kids

Our bodies are around 60% water, give or take. It is commonly recommended to drink eight 8-ounce glasses of water per day (the 8×8 rule). Although there is little science behind this specific rule, staying hydrated is important. Here are 7 evidence-based health benefits of drinking plenty of water.

1. Water Helps to Maximize Physical Performance

If we do not stay hydrated, physical performance can suffer.

This is particularly important during intense exercise or high heat.

Dehydration can have a noticeable effect if you lose as little as 2% of your body’s water content. However, it is not uncommon for athletes to lose up to 6-10% of their water weight via sweat.

This can lead to altered body temperature control, reduced motivation, increased fatigue and make exercise feel much more difficult, both physically and mentally.

Optimal hydration has been shown to prevent this from happening, and may even reduce the oxidative stress that occurs during high intensity exercise. This is not surprising when you consider that muscle is about 80% water.

So, if you exercise intensely and tend to sweat, then staying hydrated can help you perform at your absolute best.

BOTTOM LINE:Losing as little as 2% of your body’s water content can significantly impair physical performance.

2. Hydration Has a Major Effect on Energy Levels and Brain Function

Your brain is strongly influenced by hydration status.

Studies show that even mild dehydration (1-3% of body weight) can impair many aspects of brain function.

In a study of young women, fluid loss of 1.36% after exercise impaired both mood and concentration, and increased the frequency of headaches.

Another similar study, this time in young men, showed that fluid loss of 1.59% was detrimental to working memory and increased feelings of anxiety and fatigue.

A 1-3% fluid loss equals about 1.5-4.5 lbs (0.5-2 kg) of body weight loss for a 150 lbs (68 kg) person. This can easily occur through normal daily activities, let alone during exercise or high heat.

Many other studies, ranging from children to the elderly, have shown that mild dehydration can impair mood, memory and brain performance.

BOTTOM LINE:Mild dehydration (fluid loss of 1-3%) can impair energy levels and mood, and lead to major reductions in memory and brain performance.

3. Drinking Water May Help to Prevent and Treat Headaches

Dehydration can trigger headaches and migraines in some individuals.

Several studies have shown that water can relieve headaches in those who are dehydrated.

However, this appears to depend on the type of headache.

One study of 18 people found that water had no effect on the frequency of headaches, but did reduce the intensity and duration somewhat.

BOTTOM LINE:Drinking water can sometimes help relieve headache symptoms, especially in people who are dehydrated.

4. Drinking More Water May Help Relieve Constipation

Constipation is a common problem, characterized by infrequent bowel movements and difficulty passing stool.

Increasing fluid intake is often recommended as a part of the treatment protocol, and there is some evidence to back this up.

Low water consumption appears to be a risk factor for constipation in both young and elderly individuals.

Carbonated water shows particularly promising results for constipation relief, although the reason is not entirely understood.

BOTTOM LINE:Drinking plenty of water can help prevent and relieve constipation, especially in people who generally do not drink enough water.

5. Drinking Water May Help Treat Kidney Stones

Urinary stones are painful clumps of mineral crystal that form in the urinary system.

The most common form is kidney stones, which form in the kidneys.

There is limited evidence that water intake can help prevent recurrence in people who have previously gotten kidney stones.

Higher fluid intake increases the volume of urine passing through the kidneys, which dilutes the concentration of minerals, so they are less likely to crystallize and form clumps.

Water may also help prevent the initial formation of stones, but studies are required to confirm this.

BOTTOM LINE:Increased water intake appears to decrease the risk of kidney stone formation. More research is needed in this area.

6. Water Helps Prevent Hangovers

A hangover refers to the unpleasant symptoms experienced after drinking alcohol.

Alcohol is a diuretic, so it makes you lose more water than you take in. This can lead to dehydration.

Although dehydration is not the main cause of hangovers, it can cause symptoms like thirst, fatigue, headache and dry mouth.

A good way to reduce hangovers is to drink a glass of water between drinks, and to have at least one big glass of water before going to bed.

BOTTOM LINE:Hangovers are partly caused by dehydration, and drinking water can help reduce some of the main symptoms of hangovers.

7. Drinking More Water Can Help With Weight Loss

Drinking plenty of water can help you lose weight.

This is due to the fact that water can increase satiety and boost your metabolic rate.

In two studies, drinking half a liter (17 ounces) of water was shown to increase metabolism by 24-30% for up to 1.5 hours.

This means that drinking 2 liters of water every day can increase your total energy expenditure by up to 96 calories per day.

The timing is important too, and drinking water half an hour before meals is the most effective. It can make you feel more full, so that you eat fewer calories.

In one study, dieters who drank half a liter of water before meals lost 44% more weight, over a period of 12 weeks.

It is actually best to drink water cold, because then the body will use additional energy (calories) to heat the water to body temperature.

Money Management for children is also an important factor, try to teach them about money management so they have not to face any difficulties in the future.